Wedding

Here’s what I said:

Friends and family, I can’t tell you how excited I am to be allowed to stand before you today as we share in this moment with Tommy and Morgan. It is a moment they have waited a very long time for and it is a moment that is based on a life together filled with love. As you stand here now, you are affirming that love as much as Tommy and Morgan are.

Very often we hear stories of marriages described as a life together. That description is a very apt way of describing the last 15 years that Tommy and Morgan have been together. Their life together has had its ups and downs and hard decisions but ultimately they have always found their way back together, never raising their voices in anger, but instead talking things out. These two men share more than just a home. They are lovers and partners and best friends. They share trust, respect and concern for each other. Ask any one who knows them, from their friends to their family to their fairy god lesbians and they will tell you that these two men belong together.

In the end that is what marriage is, isn’t it? The being together? The belonging to someone else? The shared desires, goals and desires? The dinners and the breakfasts and the laundry and the yard work. The talks, the negotiations and the agreements. The falling asleep together. The waking up together. The going to work and coming home to that one person. For 15 years Tommy and Morgan have done exactly that. By placing each other above everyone else, they have come here today to openly, publicly and legally make that commitment to each other. No state or country can deny them that history, but today, we can take one more step to affirm that commitment, that life and that love. Today the vows they take seal them together for the rest of their lives and allow them to keep doing what they have been doing already for more than a decade.

Vows:

And now I ask you, do you both come freely and of your own will?

(T&M say yes)
Thomas, do you take Morgan to be your lawfully wedded husband?
(Tommy says I do)
Do you promise to love, honor and protect him above all others for the rest of your life?
(Tommy says I will)
Do you promise to cherish him and place his needs above your own?
(I do)
Morgan, do you take Thomas to be your lawfully wedded husband?
(Morgan says I do)
Do you promise to love, honor and protect him above all others for the rest of your life?
(Morgan says I will)
Do you promise to cherish him and place his needs above your own?
(I do)
Please face me and join hands.
Take this cord and wrap it around your hands. And repeat after me ”With this
Cloth I bind myself to you a symbol of my love and my commitment. “
(Wrapping)
And now I ask that each of you step forward and join Tommy and Morgan’s hands with the cords you each hold as a symbol of your support of their marriage and commitment to each other.
(Lots of wrapping then turn around and face the circle)
And now by the power vested in me by the State of California, I now pronounce you husbands for life. You may kiss your husband.